"You should continue to sleep with him if you have already.Otherwise, he will think you are spiteful."In addition to their books, Ellen and Sherrie provide courses and one-on-one coaching.We are wives, mothers, co-authors, dating coaches, and have been best friends for the last 30 years.We came up with the idea for a self-help dating book called The Rules after many, many dinners with single girlfriends at the now-defunct Sung Chu Mein, a Chinese restaurant on the Upper East Side in New York City—it was sort of like Sex and the City, but before Sex and the City!Women cannot be men, romantically." came out in 2013, revamping the advice and catering to young women who are dating in the age of social media.Here, you'll find Rules like, "Wait for a guy to follow you on Twitter first," and, "Wait at least four hours to return a guy's first text." Chapters also include tips for weight loss ("an average-looking slender girl has a better chance of attracting a guy than a very pretty overweight girl") and a section titled "Be Cautious About Date Rape." "If you do decide to drink, be smart about it," say Ellen and Sherrie.We began to notice that the women who played hard to get, either deliberately or by accident, were the ones who got the guys, while the women who asked guys out or were too available were the ones who got dumped.
You are a CUAO (Creature Unlike Any Other), remember?" To them, is not about manipulation; it's about preventing women from making avoidable dating mistakes and getting hurt because of them. In their opinion, "feminism is about equal pay for equal work, owning a condo, or running a marathon," says Sherrie."One of our clients — before she started working with us — broke all the Rules, and a guy dumped her," says Sherrie. "But, it’s not about asking men out, paying for dates, or being a man.We had no idea The Rules would become a bestseller…we just wanted to help women stop making mistakes and get the men of their dreams—and that’s what we still do now, 20 years later!Today, Ellen is married with two children and lives in New York, and Sherrie is married with a teenage daughter and lives in New Jersey.