So Exton, a former marketer, created Her, a free app for women looking to date other women.
The idea is to create a community for lesbians looking to make friends, chat, and, of course, date.
(To be fair, I’m in SF where there is a long and well established queer culture.
And if it’s not exactly love you’re looking for, there’s always Craigslist.I’ve never dated a bi woman long term, but I’ve enjoyed dates with other bi women (especially other bi women who have also dated other women) because there feels like a real openness there.There are no rules, there are no “butch/femme” dynamics. because there are no rules, it’s also hard to know what to do (which, perhaps is why I’ve never dated one long term.) For me, I think the bigger issue is that we restrict people so much and we make it hard to forge your own path, and queer culture is just as guilty of this as straight culture.But what about trans, queer, and non-binary people? Because the only options for gender identification are male and female, a whole swath of the LGBTQIA community is summarily discounted.And because the only options for a user’s interests are male, female, and male or female, anyone in search of a trans, genderqueer, agender, or other non-binary partner have to play a painstaking guessing game.But a plethora of anecdotal evidence suggests that — whether owing to app glitches, user error (or intentional creepiness), or the relatively small LGBTQIA userbase — Tinder will show you people outside of your selected preference with aggravating frequency.