But is there evidence to support these ideas, or have they just been drilled into us by the media?
Every year, the dating site Match surveys single Americans ages 18 and up to examine these kinds of beliefs about dating, sex, and love.
As a person who goes on maybe one date every two months let me just say this: dating is stupid and I hate it. Stop prioritising everything that isn’t kindness and emotional support and being a decent partner and just see what happens. What it’s not for is acrimony and interpersonal struggles and constantly feeling let down.
But also let me say this: it’s very good and why the hell not. It’s not fair on you, it’s not fair on them, and it’s definitely not fair on me.
Just when dating couldn’t be mean or tough enough, now there is submarineing the latest dumb ass dating trend.
Zombieing and Submarineing do most likely have the same cause, the person was with someone else when they disappeared.
Don’t make special allowances because you’re extremely love drunk and horny and because you reeeally want this one to work out. “If they’re the real deal, they’ll hold up to scrutiny and they’ll listen when you ask what the hell’s up with how they’re being lately. Sure you can look forward to finding your person (or people) but enjoy being a person now.
If they’re the real deal, they’ll hold up to scrutiny and they’ll listen when you ask what the hell’s up with how they’re being lately. Enjoy becoming more of yourself, enjoy not having to share space with people you aren’t crazy about.
Then there was breadcrumbing, that is where someone strings you along with sporadic communication until you can’t take anymore.
Then there is stashing, the one that makes you feel sad and broken when you’re deliberately kept away from parts of someone’s life.
But the reality is, dating app users were four times more likely to date in 2016.