He was a Southern gentleman just missing the bow tie, and I was his girly companion in pink, white, and red. I'm an ENFJ, and he, as an ISTJ, thought pretty differently than me.When I heard the letters, I started imagining our points of tension—but then I stopped myself.Though I always felt there was something impenetrable about him—he admitted people had trouble connecting with him and seemed closed—he told me he liked me."I can't wait to get to know you more," he said, the words seeming so genuine.So I'd search for that, and the further someone's type was from it, the less seriously I'd take them as a love interest. But Jennifer Overbo, the director of MBTI product strategy, told me that my particular interpretation of how to use MBTI—searching for an INFP to date—was misguided."The better way to think about it is there's potential in every relationship.An example: When inviting people to a wedding, "a T-type may take that spreadsheet approach and be sort of be detached and think about the fact that we can only invite X number of people.
The I-type is thinking, 'I really want to go into a quiet room and do some reflecting on my day and have my own personal space.
So the ISTJ thing definitely wasn't a deal breaker, I told myself.
And it didn't seem to be…until he disappeared a week later without explanation.
Was it fair of me then to blame it partly on his Myers-Briggs type? ) , I determined some types better complemented mine.
The INFP was specifically called out as a strong match.
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