Statistically, this is true.¹ However, it’s not as simple as saying Asian women have it easy and Asian men haven’t got a chance. Read on for common concerns regarding Asian online dating and what can be done to help make it better.Just because they receive the most responses online does not mean those responses are pleasant or flattering. From the racist to the downright lewd, it’s easy for an Asian woman looking for a serious relationship to get discouraged and want to delete their profile forever.They took Bruce Lee from us and now they are doing it all over again. Those girls must be total sluts." Interesting stuff.In the online dating world, there are two universal “truths” that have been commonly accepted.I ended up marrying one and I’m still crazy in love with him. ) It took crossing an entire ocean and time zones to realize that my assumptions about dating in China were a lie.I think we need to be very careful when we talk about what’s “normal” or “natural” in terms of relationships.The role of subservient woman seems to be tied exclusively to Asians, and their “exotic” status tends to turn them into hyper-sexualized beings among other ethnicities.
And two, Asian men are on the complete opposite side of the spectrum.“It’s totally normal for white Western women not to be sexually attracted to Asian men,” wrote a woman in a comment I happened to read.I shouldn’t have been stunned or surprised by her words. After all, I’d been privy to many conversations where white Western women dismissed the possibility of dating Asian men in all sorts of ways. But I was jarred by her comment, feeling the mental equivalent of a sudden static shock pulse through me as I read it.And well, the all white couples were either both really attractive or both not attractive, and either of these white combos make perfect sense based on Psychology 101 classes I took in college.Anyway, as I was sitting there eating some fro yo, I overheard some generally unattractive Asian girls complain about how "White girls take all the hot Asian men.A few years back, I wrote the post, Why Did I Assume I Would Stay Single in China? Was it merely that I grew up in an incredibly white middle-class suburb (I could count on one hand the Asian men I knew from kindergarten to high school graduation)?