I am sure there are some women who grew up understanding otherwise.
Or perhaps, having been dealt mediocre looks and a poor figure, others decided that they would pour their energy into their academic degrees or career rather than their beauty, and then proceeded (not without help) to dupe themselves into believing that men would like them for it.
Unfortunately, this isn't the case, as many 30-something single career-women are currently realizing - the hard way.
I used to date a girl (older than me) who would always tell me about how she had just balanced some multi-million dollar budget, or how she was in the throes of closing an important project. Women who try to attract men by being successful are like men who try to attract women by being sweet or gentle.
The values of ghetto chicks, black nerdy girls, “regular” black girls all get lumped together by the intellectually lazy.
While “Boomquisha” mostly desires the hyper-masculine bravado of thugged-out Rae-Rae and thinks he’s sexy as hell, “La Shawn,” the black, nerdy girl who grew up in the Valley and has a collection of friends that looks like the United Colors of Benetton thinks that dude is a clown and wouldn’t be caught dead taking him to the corporate Christmas party.
Take in the comments with a strong backbone, because they pull no punches (and to the black dudes up in there throwing shade and discouraging non-black men to stay away from us, I’m looking at you.)To be fair, many of the tips and techniques the author suggested rang true, like these…*Don’t treat black women like she’s your Jungle Fever fantasy* A white guy’s best bet is to approach a black woman with a diverse group of friends (which is spot on since that’s the advice we give black women to signal non-black guys that they’re open to getting to know them socially and perhaps, eventually romantically).
One subsequent commenter even went so far as to advise white guys to stay far, far away from black women who self-segregate. He tells his thousands of male readers that basically black women value swagger above all else. He, like many non-black men, think that most black women worship on the alter of black penis.
Like most sensible women, they’re looking for someone who can connect with them emotionally and intellectually, can carry himself well, has a good sense of humor, is gainfully employed, and most importantly, thinks we’re amazing.
And to be sure, the very woman that the PUA “Pick Up Artist” suggests is a good prospect IS a girl like “La Shaun,” and she’s not checking for swagger as her first indicator of a high-value man.
In essence, the author is giving the right advice for the WRONG type of black woman.
Most black women open to dating interracially aren’t looking for non-black men to adopt the mannerisms of black men, because…what’s the point?! So instead of listening to a guy who wants to mash all of us up into one big hot ghetto mess, come and see me sometime, big boy. For REAL advice you can use, hit me up [email protected] Black
Look white guys, high-value black women, (you know, the ones you want) are not looking for you to start Crip walking and running across the street shouting So with all respect to the Pick Up Artist who wrote this, please get the phuck outta here with that bull spit. ETA: My very white husband of 12 years has ZERO swagger.
This isn't to say that women shouldn't earn Ph Ds, or become CEOs, or generally strive to achieve traditionally masculine goals.