For more information on this, go to the “Sexual Addiction” article in this blog.
It confuses love, which is a decision and a commitment, with the feeling of physical and sexual attraction and lust, which most frequently diminishes over time for the vast majority of couples and which requires work to keep it fresh and exciting.
It is a phase-of-life crisis, based primarily on the fear of growing old or older and of being less attractive.
However, it’s also usually rooted in self-esteem issues from childhood or adolescence.
The sense of betrayal usually involves both a) the actual infidelity; and b) the deceptions that are part-and-parcel of the unfaithful behaviors.
The readiness, willingness, and ability of the “innocent spouse” to forgive the unfaithful spouse is often based on a number of factors, in addition to personality type, genetics, the emotional health and stability of such spouse, and the love, intimacy, and communication skills of the couple.
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This can happen in situations such as the following: II.
Synonyms: conflict, discord, strife, contention, dissension, clash These nouns refer to a state of disagreement and disharmony.
Conflict has the broadest application: a conflict of interests; a conflict between the demands of work and family.
Although the child may not be conscious of it, there may be a core feeling of loneliness for which the addictive behavior is unconsciously created to compensate.
Thus, the addictive or compulsive behaviors become attempts to self-soothe which, over time, become neuronally imprinted in the brain.
This unconsciously prompts individuals to seek the approval of the opposite sex (for heterosexual couples).