Put to death therefore what is earthly in you: sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and covetousness, which is idolatry.
– Colossians 3:1-5 When we are willing to jeopardise our relationship with God for anything else – could be a career, money, pleasure – then that becomes our idol, no matter how “good” it is in itself.
“Dating a fellow Christian” is not just fulfilling a ticked box on the checklist of Christian dating, it’s having the pleasure of being able to lead or be led by someone you can trust will have God’s (and your) best interests at heart, someone who will care for and even nurture your spiritual growth, who will encourage you through Scripture during hard times, who will love you because Christ first loved him/her, who will be someone your kids can model and follow spiritually, and whose true home, like yours, is heaven.
It’s not always natural or easy to look for and desire these things in a relationship when other things like looks, personality and so on have such a magnetic pull – but I’m convinced that these are the most important things to have for the long term.
A long time ago, I went out with someone who, besides not being a Christian, I guess was more or less perfect for me.
If we know for sure we will never marry said person, then being in a relationship with them is unfair to them as well.
As Christians, the most important question we should ask is – and casual dating, especially with non-Christians, almost certainly does not. Something else just became more important than God I can almost hear the argument being formed right now, that, basically, there is nowhere in the Bible that says its a sin to date a non-Christian.
Don’t get me wrong, it’s not that good chemistry and attraction are not important – they are just not as important as we think.
_____________ So its not merely a matter of going to different places on a Sunday morning – it’s a matter of ending up in different places for eternity.
), its played out in how you spend your time, money, what you teach your future children, how you deal with hardship… Some of these you may or may not have to deal with before marriage, but they will certainly apply after.