You know what a widower’s left with when his wife dies? A man’s inability to survive without a woman is a big explanation why a widower is often a very hot ticket on the open market – he’s LOOKING to be married again. But, at a certain point, a man has to step up and give you a reasonable amount of attention and comfort.
Factor in the dearth of older men – there are literally 3 times more single women over the age of 65 – and, well, a decent looking widower doesn’t stay available for very long. And if he fails, he risks losing the woman he cares about.
Next, something I know (and have stated repeatedly) about men – of all ages: We do what we want. Which means that even if many widowers throw themselves into new relationships because of their tremendous loneliness, THIS one seems to be functioning more like your basic super-successful middle-aged man. You can give him an extra-wide berth because he’s newly single, but be forewarned: a man who is newly single (and is keeping a little distance) is probably going to want to get a greater sampling of what’s available instead of diving right back into commitment.
If he were lonely and desperate to get married, I’d feel better about your chances, but he’s not.
The guy’s been married for 30 years, his wife dies in June and he started dating online 2 months later?
My mom didn’t even think of meeting another man until about 3 years after my father passed away. How could you be anything BUT a rebound following a long-term marriage?
I just read your book “Why He Disappeared” and really appreciated the great info.
But every time I try talking to a girl, getting close to a girl, or try to take “dating” to the next level, it never works out. Since then, we've exchanged messages here and there.Nothing deep, but our conversations are always pleasant and enjoyable. I'm going to be in his city soon and don't know if I should see him. Going from online to meeting someone in real life is nerve-racking -- even if online dating is the new normal. It is usually the wrong response or reaction from one or both people that causes a disagreement to escalate to a worse fight.I have made a list of the 8 most common mistakes men...Give him another month to try harder and if he fails, walk away.