You were around people all the time, so if you had a crush on someone, it was easy to sit next to them in class or meet up at lunch or between classes.
Well, it’s certainly a hell of a lot easier to read, anyway… Connecting with someone is hard enough, but finding a date when the two of you are both free is like playing Guess Who but with every card being a slightly different shade of grey. In your twenties, odds are that you will have had a couple of relationships. Most of your friends will be settling down, getting married, buying houses and having kids, looking forward to a long and happy life together.Being in your 20’s is already hard and awkward (at least for me), and then you add in the whole dating thing, and it just makes things weird.Sometimes, I hate dating because there are so many things left to interpretation, and I also have a huge fear of rejection.My first brush with Tinder went a little something like this: I was with two of my girlfriends in Chicago, and we all got the app. I’ve always assumed that if a guy asks a girl to hang out, just the two of them, and he pays, that’s considered a date. Unless a guy uses the word “date” when asking me, I’m left to analyze the situation after the fact with my friends.I had just gotten out of a relationship two months prior, my confidence was at an all-time low and I was in the midst of breaking it off with the worst rebound I could have ever chosen. I kid you not, I squealed when I got my first match. One thing that I’ve learned through dating over the past nine-ish months is that you can’t waste time.I’ve activated and deactivated my Tinder account a number of times over the past few months, but I’ve matched with 60-ish guys and of them, 19 have messaged me, 3 have asked for sexual favors and I’ve gone on 1 date. My friends and I thought it would be funny to make a pun off of my go-to karaoke song, “Baby Got Back,” and my profile said “My anaconda don’t want none unless you got funds, hun.” That led to this convo, and no, I didn’t reply. I’ve gone on dates with guys that I knew wouldn’t work long-term, and I just kept it going because it was nice to feel wanted. I’ve learned to start being honest up front, and it’s really refreshing to me when a guy is honest from the get-go.