But it's so obvious that we won't really fully get that outcome if we don't have the courage to put our real selves out there. Stand fully in yourself and your truth, and trust that the right people will come, and the others will fall away. And be brave -- because this whole dating scene takes serious courage.We will only truly experience meaningful connection with another when we're just our raw, real, totally vulnerable selves. But it's not nearly as overwhelming or difficult once you know and honor your truest, most wonderfully lovable self."This game playing is ridiculous," my mom has said, on repeat. misfortune) of listening in on a conversation or two (or 100) amongst my girl friends and is appalled at the level of spinning and strategizing that goes on."Just do what feels right, listen to your intuition," she counsels. You want to say hello, do it." I hate to admit that despite my better judgment and good intentions -- and my mom's pretty spot-on advice -- I found myself straying a few weeks ago.She asks me stuff about "how I do that to my girlfriends." Ok, those are most of the things she does.Now, the reason I am asking this is b/c I haven't really been into the dating things in 3 years.Clearly, the dating game calls for a heaping dose of authenticity. While it seems not everything needs to be said - we don't need to gush everything right away or have intense "talks" from the get go -- we would do well to just be .
In other words, I sent texts that I just wish I hadn't.
And the withholding and passive-aggressiveness and game-playing that results from not just being ourselves is epidemic. A good friend of mine ascribes quite seriously to the notion that as a girl, she should never initiate a text message. "Guys are the pursuers," she explains, a fact that I concede to be true for masculine-energy men, "so they come to you. "Well, I guess that's an awesome way to manipulate someone," he replied.
"I can imagine it'd create this constant fear and wondering and wanting more.
Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Hopefully you will all have fun meeting singles and try out this online dating thing...
The careful selection of punctuation marks (periods are often too serious, exclamations too enthused, no punctuation too lackadaisical), the waiting hours to reply to appear busy or cool or appropriately aloof, the excruciating dissection of -- and hanging on to -- each and every word -- is exhausting.