Thankfully, the window isn’t too terrifying (no one is saying that you have to slurp coffee in the first 24 hours).No, according to American researchers, the tipping point comes between 17 and 23 days after the first message is sent.But the simple truth is that messaging on the internet is nothing more than a fact-finding mission.You can gather information about the other person, but until you meet them you won’t know if ‘I love to laugh’ means Fawlty Towers or fart jokes. It’s easy to think you know a person better than you really do.
What’s more, you have no way of telling which bits of information are true.
You can ‘get to know’ someone from behind the safety of a screen.
But a recent study by the University of South Florida suggests that – while a short period of messaging is fine – we actually shouldn’t wait too long to arrange a meeting.
They conducted a survey of 433 online daters and found that the longer they waited to meet a match in person, the more likely they were to feel let down.
That trend that was significantly more obvious after the 17 to 23 day ‘tipping point’. That its lead researcher, Artemio Ramirez Jr., an Associate Professor, met his wife online in 2005.
Do you really want to hook up with someone who spends all his or her time hiding behind a computer?