Most people feel too guilty when they lie about something major or hide something they know they need to be honest about. They know the fall out would probably be worse if they didn’t admit the truth and that they did the right thing by deciding to be honest.
Hopefully, the other party will at least respect them for making the choice to be truthful. Some people don’t think through their lies and say something that can easily be proved or disproved.
Most of the time, though, h Most of us aren’t particularly good at it, but we all lie at least sometimes.
Most of us don’t tell “big lies.” We tell lies because its “just easier” for some reason.
When a client knows they should tell me something and makes the choice not to for strictly selfish reasons, they’re very likely wasting my time and theirs.
They lie about doing their homework or brushing their teeth, for example.
If I find out they haven’t been, it can be a little more difficult for me to want to help them. If they admit they’ve lied to me at some point, I’m willing to talk that through and to continue to try and help if it seems like they’re ready to be honest.
Usually, clients are more likely to be honest if counseling was their idea, if they believe they can trust me, and if they truly feel as though I’m going to help them rather than judge them.
Its almost instinctive to want to lie sometimes and most of us do, even if its about small things.
When you’re tempted to lie, ask yourself what you’re hoping to accomplish by lying. Think about how you feel when you know someone has lied to you in some way.
They’re not even sure why they’re lying or why they can’t just admit it when they get caught. They continue doing it even when this pattern causes them personal and professional problems and get defensive when they’re caught.