In other words, my online tastes (what I find attractive in a person’s profile) don’t match what I like in person.The best things about dating apps are their convenience and the grocery store equivalent of shopping while hungry.Theoretically, it’s great to search for someone by geographic desirability, height, or drinking/smoking preferences without leaving the couch.I’ve matched 99% with various guys online, but in person have noticed our values and personalities are completely misaligned.I went on a couple of dates from the site, and met some people who seemed interesting and smart. But, after about a month, I decided that it no longer served me either. Last week, I was a guest on the “Ask Women” podcast and we talked about online dating (the episode will air in a few weeks, and I’ll publish the link). Here is my list of why online dating no longer serves me: Constantly having to check apps, some of which are clunky and outdated, takes up a lot of time.I was asked to find some really good and really bad profiles so we could discuss them. It means I’m wasting precious minutes (multiplied into hours) on people that I don’t even know.
I didn’t recognize him at the barbecue restaurant he’d selected for lunch.
Someone else took me to LACMA, followed by live music at a tiny theater in Burbank and we ordered pie.
There was also a pathological liar who fibbed about his international travels (how could he go from LA to Peru to Paris in a day? Admittedly, most of the other dates and people fell somewhere in between and were nice enough, if not particularly memorable.
Online dating is usually based on messaging and often does not progress to phone calls or in-person dates.
How can we really get to know each other through texts?
I’m usually a people-person with a positive attitude, an open mind, and a loving heart, yet online dating makes me bitter, frustrated, and mistrusting of men.