The guy, if he hasn’t already, starts talking about how he doesn’t want to be in a relationship for some reason.
the guy change his mind if you’re going to stick around regardless of whether or not you’re in an explicitly committed, exclusive relationship?
He feels secure and he feels the current relationship dynamic is secure.
This is around the time where things are starting to get comfortable: You make plans regularly, you’re in contact more frequently and maybe it even seems a relationship seems just around the corner. What will determine if you actually If you have a guy who is not open to getting into a relationship with you, a scenario like this might play out: You might start getting really excited by this prospect that you and this guy will have a relationship, but this particular guy has specifically said he doesn’t want a relationship.
He already knows you’re not going to go out with other guys.
He already knows you have decided to be exclusive to him.
When a guy says things like, ‘I’ve never liked a girl so much after only a few dates’ or he texts you saying he misses you when you barely know each other, he’s not making some kind of grand, everlasting declaration that he’ll always feel this way.
Before I can talk about a guy withdrawing, I need to talk about relationships in general.
So as soon as the woman declares that she really likes him, she assumes it means that they’re headed towards a relationship.What if they’re not that into me and I end up making a fool of myself falling for someone when they don’t feel the same way? It may seem hard to believe, but in the beginning of a relationship, a guy will try to feel out how much a woman likes him …especially if he feels some amount of insecurity about how much she’s into him.So from his perspective, this is a perfect situation: He still gets to be technically single but also has your ongoing exclusive commitment, sex, and companionship. So if he starts feeling pressure from you for him to get into a relationship with him, he’s going to pull back… It’s because he doesn’t want to be in a relationship…Or if he feels that the current dynamic is feeling too much like a “relationship” to him (whatever he defines that as), he’s going to pull back. and no amount of asking, begging, hinting, pressuring or convincing is going to change that!It can be helpful to look at the initial period of dating as it’s own phase with its own specific qualities.