Meanwhile, you, as the HIV-positive person, can lower your viral load to undetectable levels, and you’re doubly safe. Most states have stopped requiring blood tests for couples getting married.
Health experts warn that Pr EP should not be the first line of defense against HIV infection, instead recommending regular condom use as well. Many states do require that anyone applying for a marriage license be offered an HIV test or information on HIV, but no state requires a premarital HIV test.
Some sites, such as HIVNet.com, began as community sites in the ’90s and grew into dating sites as more members joined; that kind of start offers a sort of friendly, self-policing (no spam! Plenty of sites specific to other parts of your identity make disclosing your status easy.
It’s not uncommon to see profiles that begin with “I am HIV-positive” and go on to list the poster’s other interests, as they do on the pet-lovers personals site Love Me Love My Pets.com, or JDate.com, which is for Jewish singles.
Remember, though, there’s no reason you can’t use or She Wired or any other mainstream dating site.
This is a personal choice, really, but many women say that disclosing on a website is an easy way to take the fear of rejection out of meeting new potential dates.
According to the Center for HIV Law and Policy, 36 states and two U. A report from the group documents 80 prosecutions in a recent two-year period, such as that of an HIV-positive Iowa man who had used a condom (he had to register as a sex offender and is not allowed unsupervised contact with young children, including his nieces and nephews) and a Georgia woman who was sentenced to eight years in prison for failing to disclose her HIV-positive status, even though two witnesses told jurors that her sexual partner was aware of her diagnosis.
If he or she balks, that’s just not the right person for you.
But, says Alex Garner, a program coordinator at the National Minority AIDS Council, “So many people are still confused and conflicted by [reinfection info].
If it happens it probably happens in the first couple of years of infection, and after that it’s rare.”That’s one reason that if your viral load is undetectable in each of you, some doctors now say that you do not need to use condoms, because an undetectable viral load means you cannot pass along HIV—whether your sex partner is positive or not.
But if this is your spouse, partner, long-term main squeeze, or someone you plan to be in a serious relationship with, it’s time to talk pre-exposure prophylaxis.
In a nutshell, “pre-exposure prophylaxis,” or Pr EP, is basically the concept of giving an antiretroviral medication to HIV-negative women and men to keep them from contracting HIV.
But do not douche or use an enema; both set the stage for infection.