I know how exhausting it can be to date a man who wants to hash every little issue out like, well, a woman. The only person who has to overcome anything is YOU. I’ll be back with a new-looking blog and website in early 2009.
I know that you can burn out on that kind of thing pretty quickly the way, well, we get burned out on overemotional women. You need to make a choice: to put up with his emotional neediness (as so many men do with so many women), OR to break up with him and find a new guy, knowing full well that the new guy may not be as emotionally available as the current guy. But don’t expect guys to be all things at all times. I appreciate your readership and wish you a very Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year!
Is this a deal breaker, or is this something I should just give more time to see if he can overcome it?
There are two poles that women find attractive: The Marlboro Man and the Sensitive Artist.
The Marlboro Man is traditional, doesn’t like to talk about his problems, doesn’t like to listen to yours, but he is a MAN.
Thus, as a woman, you have a choice: put up with the stoicism of a traditional man’s man, or put up with the emotional rollercoaster of a sensitive guy.Problem is that it’s hard to feel CONNECTED to a guy like this.Sharing information is what makes us close, and if you have a guy who really doesn’t roll like that, you’re going to constantly wonder where you stand and what he’s thinking.I’m wondering if I should just call it a loss and move on?I want a nice guy, but not an emotionally needy one.I am starting to feel like the man in the relationship. Sometimes I feel like he says things in a passive-aggressive way just to see how I will react. This is really stressing me out and turning me off.