Not up on the hometown dating scene, she decided to sign on to Spring Street Singles, a site that aggregated personal ads from various media outlets, such as and The "I just wanted to meet people, go out and have fun," she says. "In a list of five things he said he couldn't live without were live music and a Wüsthof knife.Tonya & Frank Ferrari, Lake Stephens, Washington Tonya, 34, was a classic online-dating skeptic, but when her parents pleaded with her to try—and offered to pay for six months on e Harmony.com, she relented—though she bargained it down to three months."I thought, 'What the heck, it's not like I'm going to meet the love of my life!"And if you're serious, use a serious site, like e Harmony," says Tonya. " The first time Crissy, 32, talked to her husband, Mark, she knew this was the man she'd marry."He was hysterically funny, and I loved his voice," says Crissy, who's currently expecting the couple's fourth child (she has a son from a previous relationship, and Mark, a widower, has two sons).The couple met on e Harmony after a friend persuaded her to sign up, believing it was the best way for a busy single mom to meet a mate.
Meanwhile, Frank, 41, a lifelong bachelor, had been online for a year on different match-up sites.Not so with Sam—whom she agreed to make a date with after six weeks of emails and hour-long phone calls. "I thought, 'Oh my gosh, this is a real man, not just an email! Lesson learned: Keep expectations low; it can take a while to find a match.Even with a system like e Harmony, whose detailed matching process saved her from "kissing a lot of frogs," you still have to feel that chemistry."I was much more emotionally needy than I would have been otherwise," admits Crissy.But in a way, she says, her father's illness made her approach to the relationship more stripped down.Time was, if you met your mate online, you developed a cover story: If anyone asked, you'd say you met in a bar or at kayaking lessons. Whether it's the fact that many of us already conduct so much of our personal and business lives online, or the proliferation of online dating sites touting their successful matches, it's perfectly acceptable to say, with pride, that you met the love of your life with your fingers on a keyboard, not wrapped around a cocktail at a singles event.